In this episode of Curves Welcome, Suzie Carr talks about A Whole New Perspective on Tomorrow.
We all have problems in life, some much bigger than others. That is life. No rhyme or reason to it. It’s part of the fabric of being a human being. We’re all going to experience frustration, disappointment, tragedy, death and sickness. And, we’ve heard it before, none of us are getting out of this alive. But it sure would be nice that while we are here, that we have some peace. We deserve it. And it’s ours to claim.
So where do you begin? Join me to explore answers to that question.
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[Music] hey thanks for joining me today for this episode of curves welcome a podcast about facing and embracing the curves of life if this is your first time tuning in this is Suzie Carr I was in the locker room of my gym on Friday and as a woman walked past she set over her shoulder to one of her workout buddies I hope your Friday goes quickly her workout buddy thanked her and they went on their merry ways I stood in front of my locker and thought about what she just wished her friend a day that flies by a wish for a precious day to be done with it served as a painfully truthful reminder of how many times I had thrown that similar meeting phrase around to others and to myself well this day ever end can it just be 5 o’clock please oh my god this is the longest day ever when will tomorrow come speaking of tomorrow have you ever considered how much time you spend thinking about tomorrow as though you are intimately connected to it or have ownership over it perhaps like me you probably rely on it being there waiting to save you from your past and oddly your present I say oddly because most of us have a weird relationship with right now this very moment most of us are in such a rush to escape it and move on past whatever is occurring so we can get somewhere we really want to be somewhere other than here and now somewhere that offers more hope and excitement somewhere that feels better and offers more opportunity because for some reason we feel the present doesn’t offer us that why is that once the locker room was free I stared at myself in the mirror in the wake of that woman’s wish to rush the day away for her friend I was reminded in that moment of a post I saw the day before that my sister put on Facebook it was a quote from Theodor Seuss Geisel and it said you’ll never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory while friends we have landed in times of uncertainty that very weekend our country suffered not one but two mass shootings that left countless people in a state of extreme loss when I woke to the news of that second shooting I couldn’t help but to be brought back to that Friday morning in the locker room when a part of me if only for a second wished the day would just end so I could get to tomorrow death brings a whole new perspective on tomorrow it’s not always gonna be there it wasn’t for a lot of people that we get and there will come a day when it’s not there for us or a loved one I have faced uncertainty in my life before yet I still find myself standing in a locker room full of post-workout endorphins still thinking ahead to the end of that day to a different moment one far away from that one where I still had to shower get changed driving traffic get lunch ready get to the office do work stop by the store to pick up dinner on the way home blah blah blah all while muttering the words will this day ever end as I released an exaggerated sigh when well tomorrow calm when tomorrow comes is truly none of our business I say this to mean that we have zero control over whether we have a tomorrow the only thing we truly have control over is connecting to now this very moment that is what is given to us how are you living it most of us operate on past or future time being in those two places can rob us of many things we miss out on a lot of life when we zone out and fail to pay attention to the big and little things you know like the excitement your dog shows you when you walk through the front door at the end of the day how many times have you been tuned out and walked past the exuberance well maybe even been annoyed by it how about when you’re walking through a parking lot to get to an annoying errand and you fail to see the kind-hearted elderly man smiling at you as you pass him by or how about when you saute your dinner in a skillet and stare down on it without feeling only to miss that point of no return when it burns and loses its flavor the tragedy of staying in the past while wishing for the future is missing out on the simple moments the moments that can bring us real pleasure if we just stop and pay attention to what we are doing we all have problems in life some much bigger than others that is life no rhyme or reason to it it is part of the fabric of being a human being we are all going to experience frustration disappointment tragedy death and sickness and we have heard it before none of us are getting out of this alive but it sure would be nice now while we are here and we have some peace [Music] because we deserve that and it’s ours to claim so what’s the catch how is it that one person who suffers immeasurable pain can still find joy while someone who has a few aggravations like traffic or long lines at the grocery store cannot find joy what is the difference well I think it resides in the notion that all we have is this moment right now it’s all any of us have the past is gone and the future is not certain so how do we want this very moment right now to play out it’s a choice do you realize that at any given moment you can if only for that singular moment drop any problem try it right now think of a problem that you are experiencing feel it way on your shoulders let it dig in absorb its weight and the strain that it puts on your neck and the tension that it creates in your head now just for this very moment because that is all we have right now toss the problem to the ground toss it and stand on it feel it beneath you breathe in the freedom of the space around you where at once held you hostage in this single moment you are free [Music] weightless existing in the here and now with no problem weighing you down [Music] that problem is there on the ground beneath your feet for another time and whether you get to the other time you’ll never know really think about that in this moment this exact moment no one nothing nada is of any concern because the only thing you are letting in miss apiece that you deserve in this slice of precious time it’s a choice something I’ve learned to look at is all the wasted time I spent worrying and stewing over problems that in retrospect have had no bearings on my life in this moment right here and right now now I’m no fool okay I know problems will arise someday someone I love will fall sick or die and then I’ll be left with the sour notion that much of that precious present time I had with this person I had wasted on worrying and stewing over things that have no relevance to today this moment right now I don’t want to have regrets of wasted time of missed opportunities spent in the past or in the future the most valuable part of being alive as far as I’m concerned is truly embracing being alive and the way to do that is not to rush it away it is not to wish for a tomorrow that is never guaranteed to us it is not in spending too much time creating a future in our mind that has blown far out of proportion and filled with what-ifs that may or may never happen or reflecting back on past issues that make us bitter and sad there is great value in this moment and if you live it with all your heart and respect it’ll turn into a memory that you will never regret a memory that will give rise to more indulgences in this very moment of time to build even more memories the only way to build happy memories is to live them first you must live them and to live them you must stop asking the question of when will this be over as innocuous as it seems to wish the workday away it’s far from innocuous it is deadly to your moment your moment this is your moment how would you choose to live it hey friends thanks for spending time with me today first up I want to take a moment to say thank you to everyone who has showed their love and support of the pet boutique a romance novel that has lots of flirty innuendos a fun-loving albeit wacky at times family and a spirited dog who makes sure that everyone adores her it is available on Kindle and Kindle unlimited as well as paperback I also want to thank all 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