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hey thanks for joining me today for this episode of curves welcome a podcast about facing and embracing the curves of life if this is your first time tuning in this is Susie Carr today’s episode is inspired by my character Emma hill from the feesh room it has to do with learning to embrace what’s in your heart even when it doesn’t jive with the dreams that others have for you so when we think about satisfaction in terms of jobs where we live and how we spend the majority of our time a lot of people find themselves unhappy the stats vary depending on the source and just how unhappy people really are but from what I could see from reputable sources there’s a trend that veers told way too many people living lives they are not happy with I’ve definitely been in places throughout my life where I found myself looking around and wondering how I got to a point where I didn’t want to get out of bed in the morning to face what had become of my life we are the sum of our choices and the choices I had made early on in my professional life led me to places that caused me massive anxiety and dread not unlike my character Emma in the feesh room most of the early choices I made starting in high school through college and a few years beyond I made to please others or embarrassingly enough to admit here to impress others I was surrounded by smart people who used their brains to land careers that totally impressed people I’m always in awe of smart people who can solve the big problems of the day knock out a financial solution in a blink walk into a room and engage others with witty appeal lead teams of people doing important work to successful outcomes all of this impresses me and back in the day when I was trying to find my way in the world I attempted to dig my heels into a life meant for other people with different skills and abilities than my own completely ignoring my own skills and abilities because I felt others didn’t view them as a worthy or important enough to make an impact I was willing to sacrifice the things that brought me joy because I feared others found them frivolous silly and I was willing to climb into the seat of a journey that made me want to pull the hair out of my head that’s not a way to live life I remember when I first told someone important to me that I wanted to write a novel this person nodded smiled politely and carried on with her activity all at the same time dismissing the idea as something incredibly idealistic and silly that dismissal caused me to question if this person had it right was writing a book a silly idea that would lead nowhere who was I to write a book anyway and what if it failed miserably the person would be able to look me in the eye and say I could have told you that would happen that kind of stuff used to bother me back then but thankfully I did have strength in me to move past the dismissal and try my hand at it anyway when I write novels my characters often reflect my life at the time the feesh room was my debut novel and I poured my soul into Emma’s character I learned about life love and the consequences of unsatisfying choices through her emma is an artist at heart she loves to sketch the world and bring it to life on a canvas through soft hard subtle and bold strokes using colorful oil paints but for all of her life her father groomed her to be someone who used her logical brain over her creative one only the heart knows what it wants and pulls a person to where they are meant to be if the circumstances are in her favor for Emma she followed in her father’s footsteps in the financial world because it pleased him she wanted more than ever for her father to be proud of her she’d rather suffer through spreadsheets and disappoint him so she liked him viewed her artwork as a hobby and not the lifeline that it actually was even though art was what got her out of bed in the morning she focused on the bigger picture a life worthy of her father’s praise oftentimes it takes a major shift for us to come to terms with ill-fated choices and to eventually course-correct Emma’s course correction began early on in this story when she met Haley a sexy witty woman who shined a light on Emma’s artistic abilities and helped them a recognize who she truly was an artist a lesbian and a woman capable of making her own decisions not until she realized this and allowed herself to grow into who she was always meant to be did she offer her father the chance to be proud of her for her instead of a reflection of who she pretended to be I learned a lot from Emma I learned that it’s okay if people in our lives are disappointed that we aren’t who they want us to be we are who we are and if that’s not enough for someone else and that’s their problem not ours the only way we can truly shine as bright as were capable of shining is if we shed the need to wear disguises of what others would have us be and embrace the unique gifts that make us who we are if I had followed the path of always trying to be someone I wasn’t to please others I’d never be happy I would have married someone totally wrong for me I would have lived in a house way too big and cold for my taste I would have surrounded myself with the type of people that make me want to crawl under a rock I would have suffered the Sunday night blues dreading the start of the work week each and every week what the hell kind of life is that I would have missed out on marrying someone who fits my heart like a glove I would have missed long walks with my dogs sunshine and Bumblebee I never would have become a novelist writing characters who challenge me and teach me what life is all about I never would have picked up a camera and thought for one moment that I could actually make a living as a filmmaker helping others to tell their stories I would have missed out on so many things that make life worth living if you are someone who is sitting at the intersection of dread and hope don’t stay there too long and ponder which way you should go you get this one shot at this lifetime don’t worry about what other people think because to be honest with you no one is really paying that close attention we all move about this world in our own speed in way and most of us are so programmed to be focused on ourselves most of the time now we don’t really have time or capacity to worry to the extent over other people’s choices as much as we think they do for us so make choices that please you because in the end you are truly the only person who will ever be guaranteed to be there for the rest of your life let that sink in you are truly the only person who will ever be guaranteed to be there for the rest of your life I don’t say this as a downer but as a realistic reminder that you need to put your feelings first in this kind of situation it’s no different than the parents putting their oxygen masks on before their child on an airplane you must take care of yourself first so you can bring the best version of yourself to others when they really need you have fun with your life be who you want to be as a famous to quote sass dance like no one is watching and while you’re at it saying like no one can hear you do what it takes to bring joy to your heart so you can then bring that joy to someone else’s hey friends thanks for spending time with me today I hope you enjoyed today’s topic if there is something you’d enjoy exploring in a future podcast please reach out to me via my website at curves welcome calm and I’ll work it in while you’re there grab a free story – it’s my way of thanking you for your support of my podcast and romance novels I also want to take a moment to thank all who have become patrons on my patreon page your support means a great deal to me for more information on joining me on this journey in gaining access to special rewards visit the link in the show notes also be sure to follow TLT podcasts to keep up on the latest episodes so thanks for tuning in until next time go out there and continue to learn grow and embrace life’s curves