How to be a Problem Solver
Novelist and Motivational Blogger Suzie Carr explores how to be a problem solver, the reasons we complain and offers a better solution to getting our way.
Let’s face it, sometimes we just want to vent, right? It feels good to get things off the chest. We bond with friends and lovers over these venting sessions. We empty our souls of the injustices, rudeness, and nerves of those people who think they can push our buttons. Sometimes we even continue the vent in our minds, kicking around those bad feelings and hoping maybe they’ll make more sense once we’ve mulled over them long enough.
The truth is I rarely feel good after venting. I usually feel worse. The emotions heighten to dangerous levels, the kind that threaten all sense of reason. I never get the kind of feedback from the person taking on my vents. They never say exactly what I want them to say. How could they when I’ve set the expectation to absolute agreement?
I used to think venting was a good thing. I thought it best to get everything out in the open, so it had space to dissipate. Well, if that’s how it actually happened, I suppose it would be a good thing. But venting doesn’t usually erase the feelings.
For me, it just increased the stress load.
I wanted to know why.
Why doesn’t unloading all those ill feelings towards someone or something help? Why did it make me feel worse?
Join me in this podcast to find out what I discovered.
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