Happiness Zappers to Avoid
Curves Welcome – Happiness Zappers to Avoid
Novelist and Motivational Blogger Suzie Carr shares a few personal things that have zapped her happiness, things that are universal and can be avoided.
No one sets out to be unhappy. Though, I’ll admit, sometimes a woman needs a moment to allow emotions to sink in before she’s ready to move on and put the past in the past or the future out in front where it will always be.
I tend to be an overly sensitive, analytical person who struggles with obsessive thoughts on how I could’ve or can make things work better. I grab onto that invisible rope of control and pull on it, intent on setting things into a place that is comfortable and beneficial.
At first glance, this seems like a good thing. I want good things to come. I want a win-win. I want to ensure that the steps I took yesterday or take today are working in a strong favor. How can this be a bad thing?
Well, it can turn bad quickly because I have no control over half of the outcomes. I can’t control the actions of others or the feelings of others. So, talk about setting myself up for problems if I go into anything like this thinking I can shift it all on my own just by being a good person with good intentions.
I’ve trained myself not to react until I feel that calm settling deep within that allows me to ask the tough question: how does this affect the other person? Until I can rationally ask this question and seek and answer that is not rooted in my favor, I wait.
When I don’t take the time to reflect objectively, my happiness level shrinks.
It’s not always easy to get into such a state, though. So what is a person supposed to do? Just give up and say oh well, I guess I can’t onwards?
Join me in this podcast to dive into this topic deeper!
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